Some of you had posted questions about getting your
bird out vs. letting him come out, so I thought I'd
post this as its own topic, rather than letting my
answer get buried in another post.
I think that I've not made an important distinction:
It's usually okay to let your bird play in and out of
his cage as he likes, but the initial getting out
may be best done by you getting him out instead of
just opening the door and waiting until he decides
he feels like coming out. For some parrots, his IS
okay to do, but others benefit from the additional
'command'. They may need to 'earn' the privilege
of coming out. Parrots that are a bit too bossy
often require this extra bit of control on our part.
Shy parrots may need the command as they continue to
learn that doing what people ask isn't the end of
the world. Anytime they do something we ask, and
there's a pleasant result, they learn to trust more
and more.
Don't feel guilty about providing direction to your
bird. In many situations, parrots look to us for
guidance and cues on how to act. So by asking your
bird to come out, you're not causing him anger or
stress. It doesn't hurt his feelings when you provide
this extra bit of control. This applies mainly to
parrots that are already pretty well-adjusted and
trusting of people. Some birds may be a bit
stressed when asked to do something, and you have
to use your judgment on whether or not to keep
pushing. More on that later.
When might you feel it's okay to just open the door
and let your bird decide? If he is already very
well-behaved and trained, and doesn't have any
handling issues; if he's good with the up and down
commands, and you haven't seen any indication that
letting him come out on his own is causing any
problems, then it's most likely fine. But, IF you
start to see him become a little too 'bossy' or
difficult to handle, having him get out by stepping
up can help correct this. We go through this in our
own home. Sometimes my macaw gets a bit too 'cocky'
when I try to put him away, so I just reinstate
the up command when getting him out. A few days of
that and he's back to being the good bird that he is.
Now, should you FORCE a parrot to come out if he
really, really doesn't want to? Maybe. If you're
working with a cage-bound parrot, you may have to
make him come out or else he could stay cage-bound
forever. However, this is a different circumstance
than the bird owner whose bird is pretty much
'normal'. In this case, you can give your bird a
choice to come out by looking for signs that he
wants out. If he's coming to the front of the cage,
hanging on the door, and so on, that's a pretty
good indication he'd like to be out. He should step
onto your hand or a dowel in order to get out
instead of you just opening the door.
On the other hand, if you walk over and he doesn't
appear to be interested in coming out just now,
you don't even have to make the offer. Wait until
you think he's interested. This avoids an argument,
because once you ask a parrot to come out, you
usually are going to have to follow through. Remember,
this applies to parrots that ARE NOT having behavior
problems such as cage-bound issues, biting or general
bossiness. Parrots with certain problems may need you
to be pushier than you need to be with a well-mannered,
well-adjusted parrot.
And I know this may confuse the heck out of some
of you but there are some cases in which it MAY be
better to just let a cage-bound parrot come out
when he wants, especially if the bird has other
problems besides being afraid to come out of the
cage. If he's afraid of people in general, and
panics when you try to handle him, for example,
he may be better off if you back away and let him
make the decision. With some parrots, if you push
too much, they get too stressed and you end up going
no where with their training. It takes some
observation and studying of your bird, and even then
it's a judgment call. You can always try the
'I'm going to get you out no matter what' approach
and see if it works or if it sets things back. If
it seems to make things worse overall, you may have
one of those birds that needs things to go reeeal
slooooow.
What I REALLY don't recommend is letting a bird have
the run of the house, where he's hardly in his cage
at all, and just goes all over the lace. There are
several reasons why it's usually not a good idea to
let a bird just come and go as he pleases. Parrots
do best when they have structure in their lives, like
little kids. If allowed to do whatever, whenever,
they can become harder to work with. When you're the
one controlling the coming and going, you're providing
a sense of structure. If you want to look at is as
'being the boss', that's fine, but it's a bit more
complicated than that.
Think about dogs for a minute. Anyone with a
well-mannered dog knows that it takes guidance and
training for that dog to NOT make potty messes in
the house, tear things up, bark excessively, jump on
people, etc. Dogs are given parameters. They're
given limits as to what they can and can't do. It
should be the same with parrots.
Horses are another example. If you let your horse do
whatever it wants, not only will you have a difficult
time riding him, but you could actually get hurt.
Many of our animal companions need some sort of structure,
training and limits in order to do well in our homes.
We shouldn't look at is as though we're being cruel
just because we're setting limits on our pets' behaviors.
In some cases, it's actually for their own benefit, not
just ours.
Probably one of the biggest concerns I have about
parrots who are kept at liberty is safety: The safety
of the bird, and the things in the home. Parrots tear
stuff up. They get into things, sometimes things that
can be harmful to them. They get accidently sat on,
stepped on, pinched by doors, and have other accidents
that stem from the fact the bird is out and about
without careful supervision.
Also, people who let their birds have the run of the
house often find that their bird tries to RUN THE HOUSE!
A home ruled by a parrot isn't usually a pleasant place
to be.
I hope this clears things up a bit. The important thing
to remember when reading information I've offered here
is that it's pretty general, and may not apply exactly
to your situation. If you're in doubt as to whether or
not it would be better for you to ask your bird to come
out vs. just letting him out, you can contact me and I
can help you a bit more personally.